Self-Harm

Self-harm is when someone deliberately hurts their own body. It might seem like a way to deal with overwhelming feelings, but it can become a habit because of the temporary relief it gives. Everyone’s reasons for self-harming can be different, and it’s often linked to feelings of anger, sadness, anxiety, or depression.

What to Know About Self-Harm

Self-harm is more common during teenage years. Studies have shown that in a class of 30 fifteen-year-olds, about six might be self-harming.

If you’re worried that you or someone you know might be self-harming, it’s important to get help. Talk to a trusted adult, like a teacher, school counsellor, or parent. If it seems urgent, it’s important to see a doctor or go to A&E.

Why Some People Self-Harm

People might self-harm for several reasons, such as:

• Dealing with Tough Situations: It can be a way to cope with really difficult feelings or situations.
• Turning Emotional Pain into Physical Pain: Sometimes, hurting themselves might seem easier than dealing with emotional pain.
• Communicating Distress: It can be a way to show how much they’re struggling without using words.
• Relieving Numbness or Anger: Self-harm might help manage feelings of emptiness or rage.
• Gaining a Sense of Control: It might make them feel like they have control in a life that feels out of control.

Recognising the Signs

Self-harm can take many forms, such as:

• Cutting or scratching
• Burning
• Pulling hair or banging heads

If someone is self-harming, they might hide their arms or legs or avoid activities that require changing clothes, like PE.

Risky Behaviours

Sometimes, risky behaviour can be a form of self-harm or a sign that someone is struggling. This might include:

• Challenging or disruptive behaviour
• Skipping school
• Engaging in risky online activities or relationships with strangers
• Eating disorders
• Sexualised behaviour
• Using drugs or alcohol
• Attempting suicide

If You’re Struggling

If you or someone you know is self-harming or engaging in risky behaviours, it’s important to reach out for support. Don’t hesitate to contact your school’s support services or visit our Find Services page for more help. If the situation feels urgent, check out our Urgent Help page or talk to a trusted adult immediately.